I was working with a leadership team a while back.
At the end of one of the group sessions. a member of the team came to me, she was upset.
She said that she felt like an ‘imposter’ in the room and didn’t deserve to be there.
She said she had no real talents and skills and had in fact been a single mother at 18 and hadn’t achieved anything of note in her life.
I asked her how her child was now.
She said Brian was 21 years old and was due to finish college this year and qualify as an Engineer.
I asked her what it was like bringing him up on her own.
She said that it was hard, but she dug in, was focused, and she had done the best for him.
She said the one thing she was proud of in her life was how well her son had turned out.
I asked her what it took to bring him up so well.
She thought for a minute, and then she said, well, it took determination, drive, and most of all resilience.
I asked her if she had ever thought of herself as having these qualities.
She said, ‘no’, and gave me a smile, and walked out of the room.
In my work with leaders from all business sectors over the past 25 years,
The most common reason that holds people back from achieving what want out of life is a lack of confidence!
People consistently tell me they feel like an imposter.
The best way to overcome this is by building a personal brand.
This will give you:
- The confidence that comes from understanding what makes you tick.
- The confidence that comes from defining who you are and what you have to offer.
- That confidence that comes from believing in that so you can just be yourself.
- The confidence that comes from understanding how others see you.
- The confidence that comes from accepting not everyone will buy your brand.
Too many of us undervalue what we have and overvalue what we haven’t.
What are you going to do to develop your confidence?